Dating a girl in a wheelchair
But in the climate that prevailed at the time, people were shocked that I dared to hope for romance and physical intimacy. I was taught all of societies’ biases: that people with disabilities are different, sub-human, to be avoided (which is why we segregated them).It was as if, somehow, my disability made me less human to them. And yet, when I became one of “them,” I was, still me.
A woman might be worried about offending her date by offering too much assistance when he does not need it. She needs to be mindful of what an appropriate touch is and when to use it.
It can be an uncomfortable subject (though, really, why should it be? The results, actually, turned out to be more revealing than ever, and even raised more questions, at least for me, than they answered. In the end, what might seem like a little question to some people is a pretty big one for me.
One friend suggested that the disabled woman wouldn’t be comfortable in her physique and that this would negatively affect physical relations. They’ve been a part of my life — and part of me — for 27 years, so I’m going to talk about them. Getting to know me is also getting to know and be comfortable with my disability.
“People do not want to come out and address that this is a major factor, but it is,” he said. That’s true; I haven’t always been comfortable with my body (see the above paragraphs for a review). In a recent post on my blog, where I regularly explore the intersection of my disability and my search for love, I shared my feelings – angry, sad, disappointed, hopeful — about their responses. At least that’s what readers thought, who chimed in with everything from saying I live with my head in the sand to lambasting me for not respecting others’ opinions.
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