Standards in dating
Let’s take the example of raising your standards to create the ultimate relationship.
People fail to follow through and develop the necessary rituals to manifest the relationship they truly desire mainly because they feel overwhelmed by how massive this challenge or change can appear to be.
Are your standards high enough, or are you selling yourself short? Know your preferences – understand what you like, expect and accept from others. This is a key trap that many people fall into that holds back their relationships and friendships, sometimes for years.
It’s almost an attitude of “I’ll take what I can get, because I don’t want / I’m too scared to try for something more” – people can get into this mindset in all areas of their life, and relationships are no exception.
The two main thoughts that lead to this: 1 – ‘Well, I’ve already got a partner… Well by taking a look at your preferences, these thoughts can be put out of your mind, so that you can avoid the problems this type of thinking can cause.
On one hand, if you're going to find a spouse, someone (you hope) you'll spend the rest of your life with, you would want to find someone that's "perfect" for you, and set a really high standard.
This type of thinking often stems from a lack of confidence.
A lack of belief that people can do better than they’re currently doing.
The result of achieving these small steps day after day will be a growing momentum or a snowball effect imbued with the feeling of victory that will raise your confidence and success will follow.
Success is just like failure, both are based on standards and rituals.
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If a potential date’s actions or words set off an internal alarm system, you owe it to yourself to pay attention and act accordingly. For example, if you’ve met someone online and they seem interesting, then you talk to them on the phone and they sound completely different (in a negative way), you may decide not to meet them in person.